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Do you have various paperwork in place for things like health care proxy and a will and stuff like that? If not, you might want to do something about all that. Like, you really should.

PARTICULARLY if you would rather than decisions be made by your friends and/or family of choice rather than the folks who are listed as family in government records. (I was going to say 'birth family' but I'm not sure what a good term is that would include adopted and blended families.)

I know there are free/cheap resources out there for doing this stuff for folks with fairly uncomplicated situations, but I haven't used any of them so I have no specific recommendations.
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I have been kicking around a post idea for something like a year or a year and a half, but I've been torn between wanting to write it as a post (and tell you things) and wanting to ask for solutions.

Mr. Bostoniensis and I have been trying to consolidate our household, and the Brave New World of the Internet is... not facilitating this. Vendor after vendor, platform after platform, is organized around the concept of a single user account. Even when company accounts nominally allow multiple user accounts, typically one user account is the real user account and the other has restricted access.

For instance, when setting up joint financial instruments, we split up the work: I would set up the joint bank accounts, he would set up the joint credit cards. We subsequently discovered that he can't access the statements and tax documents in our nominally-joint bank account's online portal, and I can't have an independent login at all for our allegedly joint credit cards that show up on my credit report.

This is infuriating. What we want to happen is that he and I have equal full access to the accounts we share, such that either of us can do what needs to be done on them, which I thought was a pretty normal approach to, well, life. I did not think heterosexual marriage was some sort of weird counter-cultural edge-case, and it offends my software developer soul to be reduced to sharing usernames and passwords.

But that is exactly the case, and I would just hold my nose and do it, except for one thing.

Two-factor authentication.

If I want to be able to two-factor into an account that uses his phone number, I have to access his phone. Something best done while he is not asleep, which, unfortunately, is precisely when I am most likely to want to be paying bills or doing online shopping. Likewise, if he wants to two-factor into an account that uses my phone number, he'll need access to my phone. Which, honestly, he could probably slip into the room and grab off the charger while I'm asleep – which is precisely when he'll be wanting into those accounts – but that does him no good if say I were out of town or in the hospital or some such.

And more and more 2FA is becoming mandatory. You can't turn it off. (Or in the notable case of one of our credit cards, you can turn it off. It will two-factor you anyways, but the account settings assure you it's off.)

Two-factor authentication is stupid and awful for so many reasons, but it has only recently dawned on me that one of them is that 2FA is intended to keep anyone else from logging in to your account and I actually want someone else to log into my account. Legitimately, I think.

So.

Obviously, the Bostoniensis household requires some sort of telephony solution such that:

• text messages (SMS) sent to a single phone number propagate to two cell phones; *

• either of the two cell phones can originate text messages from that single phone number which is not the phone number of either of those phones; **

• and the phone that didn't send the reply gets a copy of it, so it can stay in sync with the convo; ***

• voice calls sent to that single phone number propagate to one, the other, or both simultaneously of the two cell phones, depending on a on-the-fly configurable schedule of when which call goes where; ****

• either cell phone can originate a voice call that will appear to come from the shared number; ****

• ideally, both cell phones could conference into the same call with a third party, but that's a bonus;

• must be compatible with Android phones, an probably needs to support iOS as well; we'd love a solution that also supports web and/or MacOS desktop access, but that's a bonus.

I am looking for recommendations for solutions that (are known to) meet this specification. There are lots of solutions for small businesses, but r/smallbusiness drags a lot of them for filth, and also we're cheap and don't want to pay a fortune, especially for a lot of businessy services we don't need like the ability to spam-SMS 10k prospective customers an hour or (all the rage right now) deploy an AI receptionist or surreptitiously surveil our customer service agents' work for quality and training purposes or integrate with Salesforce.

Also, crucially, a lot of these services seem to be based on a phone tree model, where each handset gets its own extension, and I'm really unclear how that would work with automated voice-call 2FA. Not well, I am guessing.

So what I am looking for is knowing recommendations that can answer from direct experience as to whether a solution will support our intended use case.

Has anybody else even tried to solve this problem? Or does everybody else just accept that financial instruments, online retail accounts, and virtual services can only really belong to one member of a couple at at time?

This seems like something there should be an obvious commercial service for, targetted at families, but the only one I found no longer is in the Play store and also may be wholly defunct.

As a side note, this isn't only relevant for couples. It's relevant to all sorts of multi-adult households, from polycules to multigenerational households. It is of particular relevance to people with aging elders who might want to be able to get into the elder's accounts to help them from afar. Especially adult siblings of aging parents, where no one sibling should be the only person stuck with all the administrative work. It's surprising that I haven't found a commercial solutions to this yet, and wonder if there already is one everybody else already knows about.

* Necessary to allow either member to receive a 2FA text message when either one initiates a log in.

** Necessary in the case we want to revoke texting permission to a third party by "text STOP to end".

*** Necessary not to engage in an inadvertent Abbot and Costello routine.

**** Necessary because every once in a while a 2FA system will barf on texting VOIP numbers, and only successfully get through with automated voice call 2FA. Also it would be nice for one of our other use cases – the "get Siderea's doctor's office to call back and make sure a human answers no matter when they do" use case – for there to be one number that rings through to both of us. But also necessary that we can schedule it not to ring when one or the other of us are asleep, while still ringing through to the other. I need to be able to 2FA at 2:00 A.M. and Mr. B very much needs my doing so not to cause his phone to ring.

***** Maybe not strictly necessary, but there's a lot of systems that react poorly, or at least with more scrutiny, to customer calls about accounts other than the ones associated with the number the call is coming from. It would be better if we just only ever called NStar from the number they have on record for us, but that means we need to be able to originate voice calls from the same number we'll be using with them for security purposes.


Edit: I'm really hoping for a non-Google, commercial solution.

Winter, Light, and Windows

Mar. 1st, 2026 03:11 pm
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The weather’s been having a lot of fun with us. Over the last week we’ve been up and down the thermometer from ten degrees to fifty and back, with the coming week predicted to do the same. In the warm spells the snow goes, and when the snow goes we lose a lot of information. … Continue reading Winter, Light, and Windows

no. 117: one kind of bread

Mar. 1st, 2026 11:11 am
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If you’ve been reading a while, you’ve probably seen a picture like this.

I know how to make exactly one kind of bread, and depending on how you count, I started making it sometime after 2004. The recipe’s changed, but it’s the same bread. Both of these things are true.

This is the recipe as it stands today. Maybe I should paywall this. Recipes, I’m told, convert. But maybe this isn’t a recipe at all.

My bread is 80-85% hydration and mostly whole grain. These days it’s 80% whole wheat and 20% AP. 1.5% salt. In some sense that’s the whole recipe.

I use a solid starter, 40g King Arthur AP and 28g water. It lives in a jar that used to hold smoked sprats, the dour northern cousins of sardines. Like D, they come from Riga. I renew it almost entirely each time I use it, keeping maybe a teaspoon in the jar.

There’s a summer process and a winter one.

In summer I just make the bread. My kitchen stays in the high 70s-mid 80s F (25-30C). The water in NoVA tastes terrible, so my filter sits next to the sink, meaning my water’s always room temp too.

I disperse the starter in the water, add the salt and flour, and stir it all together with a spoon. I merely bring the dough together, so it looks like this.

The recipe’s deliberately short on water, for ease of control, but I want no dry patches in the dough. I always add more to collect the last of the flour at this stage, and switch to a dough scraper to clean the bowl.

Then I cover it and let it hang out. I fold the dough twice over the course of a 4-8 hour bulk ferment, once at the halfway mark, and again ¾ of the way in. Each time I do 4 coil-folds. I use water on my hands and scraper, not flour. After the first fold, it looks like this.

I shape a boule, and proof seam-down in a large basket. The proof happens as it happens. Sometimes it’s an hour at room temp, sometimes I refrigerate it overnight, whatever’s most convenient.

I bake at 475F (247C) in an old Lodge dutch oven, 20 min covered and 20 uncovered, or a little longer if the dough is cold from the fridge.

I dust the base with semolina or cornmeal, and spritz the loaf heavily before putting the lid on, so much so that water runs down the top.

In winter the process tends to be more predictable, because I use a sponge: 100g whole wheat and 80g water. My starter, like me, hates being below about 74-75F, but above that, it’s si, se puede! (or as we’d say in Singapore, “boleh!”) The sponge takes 7-8 hours to develop, and in practice there’s never a reason to let it sit much longer.

I mix the sponge straight into the dough, just as I do with the starter. Bulk fermentation runs 2.5-3 hours, with 2 folds. I space the folds evenly, so usually I’m folding at 50-60 minute intervals. I proof and bake the same way, though the reality of the workday means I rarely retard in winter.

I know all this sounds confident and definitive, but that’s only because I’ve written it down, and elided the time I spend looking at the dough, touching the flour, and thinking about whether it needs another fold.

We created our starter in 2004, while dogsitting in Weston, MA. We used to say the bread tasted like Weston, until we found out that how you tend your starter matters much more than the culture it started with. Nurture over nature. I guess now it tastes like us.

I think I actually learned to bake in the summer of 2005, when I spend a month baking on a sort of post-industrial cheese farm in New Jersey. It was called the Bobolink Dairy & Bakehouse, and Jonathan and Nina are still running it. They’re generous, complete, ingenious people, and I recommend visiting them if you possibly can – but they didn’t actually teach me to bake. That job fell to their baker, a genial wisp named Brendan. I remember he was from one of the St. Louis because he was the first person I’d met from either.

The bakehouse was a shipping container with a small air conditioner rammed into its side. When we got a shipment of flour, we’d open the cargo doors on one end and load the 50 pound sacks in by hand – being, after all, a couple of strong-backed millennials. The container abutted a shed made of honeycomb board and wriggly tin, and the shed housed a brick oven with the footprint of a king size bed. We’d fire the oven with 350 pounds of wood each night, then scrape the ashes out in the morning and bake using residual heat – sourdoughs, and ciabattas and rye. In summer the rye was more a batter than a dough. We followed the classic formula for dough temperature, but the setup demanded harmony rather than control. The bakeyard was whatever temperature it was, the bakehouse more or less was too, and the oven didn’t have a dial on it either. I still like my bread to look rustic.

I’d return to Bobolink again and again, and was lucky enough to spend a few weekends baking with B, who’d wound up at Bobolink for a spell while taking a break from Balthazar. I don’t remember much about how we baked at home, other than that we used a baking stone, not a dutch oven. We stuck to Hamelman’s sourdoughs, and explored his book. It didn’t feel as fluid as it does today, though I can’t remember why. I think it’s that the fluency kicks in largely during the repetitive phases, when you’re dealing with a hundred of the same loaf at once. Brendan and B were far better judges of dough than I am, but they still paused to do it.

Diana made the bread for our first restaurant. Three levains and three loaves of rye a day, emerging from the oven just before staff meal. It was still warm for service – too warm, so we couldn’t slice it fine, and had to saw it into thick, steaming tranches with crumbs sticking to the knife. We served it with a tall wave of butter on a flat stone, with a glittering crest of Maldon salt.

When we added the cafe, I took on the bread instead, but I spent those years trying to fix the Titanic with a tyre kit, and did the bread on autopilot, neglecting it the way you neglect a solid employee. We switched from a liquid starter to a solid one then, and one of my few forms of solace was watching the starter breathe. It was around this time that I started proofing seam-side down – it was one less thing to do.

I switched to mixing by hand sometime after we closed the restaurants in 2017. I think it was after our first trip to see Ed in Vermont, and watching him make bread. He’s a one-loaf cook as well, I think. Or at least, there’s the daily bread, and then there’s everything else. Ed’s mildly allergic to modern devices, and there was something about the act of bringing the dough together with a wooden spoon, a reminder that we’ve done this since long before we had machines, and that, after fossil fuels are gone, we may do this again.

The only commercial bakers who mix by hand seem to work at wooden troughs, contemporary objects made to echo much older ones, in European bakeries that double as churches of biodynamics. I remember B telling me at one point, “the problem with baking is that everything takes up so much space, and at each stage, you require even more.” Mixing in a trough means leaving the dough in there for part of the bulk fermentation, which makes me wonder how much bread they can make in a day. Do they mix only once every few hours? Are these saved for particular breads? There are few absurdities I fail to fall for.

The idea of skipping the pre-ferment came after we moved to a claustrophobic, cellular concrete tower in Harlem. The building was a dense, heaving neighborhood, intensely alive. We were in a fervid apartment on the 18th floor, and the heat felt metabolic.

Using any amount of pre-ferment made the process a sprint, and gave me grain-forward loaves without enough of the flavor of fermentation. Instead I let a homeopathic amount of starter loose upon the great expanse of the final dough, then tried to bring them to the right place at the right time. Time and fermentation both help gluten form. You have an ideal stage of gluten formation, and an ideal stage of fermentation, and you’re trying to shepherd the two processes so they both arrive there at the same time, with nothing more than temperature and the handling of the dough. Like eating doughnuts using just your pinkies.

I was at home all day because I was writing my first book, the one that won’t see light of day (I’ve learned from Neal Stephenson, who, having sold his first book, now has to go around removing every copy from this earth). I futzed around with autolyzes, and a few memorable weeks of laminating the dough instead of folding it. That yielded nothing but bragging rights and more cleanup – the idea came from social media.

Those loaves were still mostly white. 90% AP, 10% rye, about 70% hydration. There were several equilibria en route to this one: 50% whole, 40% AP, 10% rye, then 75/15/10, and probably some others in between.

I think I started adding more whole grain when we slipped back into Cambridge in that first pandemic winter, a dangerously comfortable homecoming. I could bike to an actual mill. I bought whatever flour they sold me, and it was never the same. Some seemed to release water during the fermentation, others were too relaxed, giving loaves with good structure but no ambition. These were the pandemic years, so I was working at home, checking the bread between zoom calls. I kept no notes. If I had a destination in mind, I didn’t know how to get there. The bread remained edible.

Cambridge was colder, which led me to the winter routine. The most noticeable difference to me isn’t the volume or the flavor, but the sheer consistency the preferment brings. Normal, sane bakers know this already. The fresh milled flours also led me to overwork the dough a little, folding it 3 or 4 times for security. Nothing catastrophic happened, but I realized I was trading a bit of extensibility for strength, which is why I only fold twice now.

My flour changed again when we moved to Virginia – this mill doesn’t tell me where each batch is from, so I’m unsure if the variation comes from the milling or the grain. I’ve gotten batches full of bran, and batches that were almost rice-flour fine. There’s one farm in the market that sells flour. When you buy it, they inform you that it’s not for bread. They bake too, but their bread is more earnest than delicious. That flour yielded dough as flaccid as a napping retriever. I made focaccia.

What hasn’t changed? The starter’s the one we started in 2004, but it feels strange to assign a living thing a fixed identity. The basket. The King Arthur AP. And yet it feels like the same loaf.

This year I tried to teach myself to bake something else, and started winging things, knocking doughs together with no recipe and no vision in mind. Sometimes I’d go two weeks between loaves of sourdough. At one point we were staying with a dozen friends, and I made four different breads over four days, with neither recipes nor expectations. Focaccia, milk bread, cream bread, and something between a Parker House and a pain de mie. Every loaf had something irreducible in common, an even muscularity to the crumb.

I was talking to a friend about what it means to really know a thing. The definition we came to was that you could pull it off while roaring drunk or before you’d had your morning coffee. I know how to make bread, but maybe I only know how to make one.

And if you’ve read this far, please take a split second to stab that little heart at the bottom of this post, it actually helps. The magic of our algorithmic overlords is puissant! All hail!

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I had stalled out on this one due to poor light and hating confetti stitches. Yesterday I cranked through all but 2 of the stars and much of the shading on the moon.

Pattern is Upon A Star from the book Cross Stitch In The Forest.

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Feb. 27th, 2026 12:09 am
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I can't go into details, but this week I had to fear quitting taekwondo. This made me look at how important it was to me, and it was very important to me. Luckily I don't have to quit.
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[Content Advisory: info that may be US government classified and controlled unclassified info leaked to news outlets, within. Actual status is unclear to me.]



Cuba has been effectively under siege by the US since at least January.

The US has cut off all Cuba's access to fuel imports. The situation is getting increasingly desperate. And a bunch of things just happened today. Yesterday, by the time I post this.

The US seized Venezuela January 3. Venezuela had been one of Cuba's two primary sources of oil, and once the US had control of Venezuela, the US halted shipments of Venezuelan oil to Cuba. Cuba's other main supplier of oil was Mexico, and on Jan 27, Mexico announced it was suspending oil shipments to Cuba. The Mexican president was evasive when asked point blank if the Trump administration was pressuring them into it, but Mexico has a critical trade deal with the US coming due for renegotiating, and dare not antagonize Trump.

Two days later, Jan 29, Trump issued an EO threatening any country that ships oil to Cuba with tariffs.

Apparently, there has been, since around that time, an undeclared US naval blockade of Cuba, to prevent oil shipments from getting through. The Trump administration hasn't admitted it, but Jan 23, Politico published a report that three anonymous sources in the Trump administration said that the administration was considering a "total blockade on oil imports" to Cuba, and a few days ago the NY Times published an analysis of ship movements in the Carribean indicating that there was indeed a naval blockade.

Cuba has received no foreign oil since its last shipment from Mexico Jan 9th.

As of Feb 3, the Financial Times was reporting that a consultancy was reporting that Cuba had "15 to 20 days" of oil left. Feb 5, the UN Secretary-General spokesperson issued a statement about a humanitarian disaster looming in Cuba.

Cuba of course did what it could to ration oil, but without enough of it, things began to fall apart. They started running out of fuel for cars, public transit, trucks to ship in food, garbage trucks to take the trash, and tractors to harvest crops. Cuba primarily generates electricity from oil-burning power plants so the electrical grid started failing and they started having blackouts. People have been cooking with whatever they can burn in the streets; there is no reliable refrigeration. Of course, they are also running out of food, and have difficulty accessing water. All elective surgeries have been canceled.

Feb 8, Mexico sent a delivery of humanitarian aid – 814 tons of food and hygeine supplies – to Cuba, to arrive later that week. This doesn't violate the US sanctions. Probably.

Feb 9, Cuba notifies all airlines that fly to Cuba that Cuban airports are running out of fuel and they will no longer be able to refuel in Cuba; Air Canada announces it's suspending flights to Cuba and sending empty flights to rescue Canadians in Cuba. Canada has been the largest source of tourists to Cuba, and the tourism industry is one of Cuba's main sources of foreign currency, without which it basically can't engage in international trade.

Also Feb 9, Mexican president Sheinbaum publically called the US's sanctions on Cuba "unjust" ["muy injusto"] for how they impacted the people of Cuba and pledged to keep finding a diplomatic solution with the US to get to ship Cuba oil.

Feb 13, the Ñico López oil refinery in Havana, Cuba, had a fire. The Cuban government reports that it was swiftly contained, and that the refinery continues to function, but that an investigation was opened into its cause.

Feb 22, shipping analysis firm Windward announced that they'd detected a Russian tanker (subsequently identified as The Sea Horse by Kplr) headed from the Mediterranean to Havana, likely carrying oil, putting it on a track to directly challenge the US Navy's blockade. It is due to reach Cuba in early March.

Feb 23, Canada announced it would be sending some sort of relief supplies to Cuba, but was cagey about just of what those supplies would consist.

Today, Feb 25:


The commenter VisualEconomik EN on YT argued today that Russia is unlikely to go to the mat for Cuba, for a variety of reasons, including that Russia is economically over-extended by its war in Ukraine; he also contends that Russia and China have no more patience for Cuban mismanagement and despite the tactical military advantage having turf within 100 miles of the US coastline, they're kind of done with dealing with Cuba's government. As to whether this is true, I can't say, but it sounded reasonable. This is good news if true, because otherwise, if either wanted to back Cuba against the US, this could be the match that sets off the powderkeg.

News sources and further reading below, in chronological order of publication [6,690 words] )

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